Are you stuck?
Millions of Over 40 women are successful at positive lifestyle change, weight loss and improving their health. How do they do it? You might say they are “lucky” or they have great genetics, or they have more time and money.
You might reason that they have a fast metabolism, or willpower that you lack.
You and I know that it goes deeper than that. While a lot of women have great weight loss success more fail over and over again at reaching their healthy lifestyle and weight loss goals. You may be among this group.
Is it simply a matter of what the lean, fit women eat or what they do for exercise?
I believe that most failed weight loss attempts share a few common mistakes, ones that can be easily remedied. Left unaddressed, these habits will mean the difference between success and failure.
Are You Standing in Your Own Way?
Here are five habits that might be holding you back from successful weight loss and positive, healthy life. If you’re getting in your own way, move over and let yourself be the best you can be!
1. Do you fail to follow through and complete a training cycle? Do you give up?
Some people just cannot finish. For whatever reason, (loss of faith, confidence, pain/injury, frustration, impatience) it doesn’t matter how much time they have invested or how many resources are available to them, they seem to lose focus and drop the ball in the warm up.
Achieving weight loss and life altering goals require a full 9 innings of play. You can’t quit just because an injury temporarily sidelines you or the scoreboard shows a slight lag. Hang tough and finish. Do what it takes to win. Show up!
2. Do you obsess over and micro-manage every detail?
Most people begin a weight loss initiative expecting to do everything perfectly and are unsuccessful. They mistakenly believe that to succeed everything must be done at once, with no leeway for imperfection. Inevitably, with the first “slip up”, they believe their efforts to be useless, their resolve to be weak and their chance for success, hopeless.
Perfection is impossible and to think that you can change overnight is foolish. You invite failure with this attitude, it’s an unsustainable philosophy.
If you want to change your life and become active and fit, you’re going to have to learn to take time, nurture self-love, hold a strong vision of your ultimate goal and stay tenacious.
3. Are you always wrong?
It’s difficult for many people to focus on what they’re doing right. Women especially are prone to berate themselves, quick to admit laziness, boredom, lack of will power. They often speak very poorly of themselves.
If you fail to acknowledge what you are doing right, you miss out on an opportunity to feel good about your efforts. Mistakes are stepping stones to success; so too are positive self-affirmations.
Admit when you’re right, reward yourself when you’re good and when you’re strong so you can move forward quickly and do better. Be your own best friend. Be your own cheerleader. Be your own coach!
4. Do you ask questions, but don’t really pay attention to the answers.
We all know people who ask for advice and then promptly ignore it. They begin an exercise initiative with a credible professional and then do things your own way. They slack off when training gets difficult, when they tire or become frustrated with slow progress.
Do you ask about perils of sugar and drink wine anyway? Do you ask about the importance of carbohydrates and cut them out anyway? Do you ask about caring for injuries, soreness or pain and delay professional treatment anyway? Do you want to know, REALLY, what it takes to achieve sustainable weight loss and then choose a fad diet way anyway?
You’ll make better progress if you abandon stubbornness, weigh different points of view and try to understand logical perspectives. Make better decisions for your own personal circumstances by asking the right questions (“What results can I expect to see in 4 weeks?” instead of “How fast can I lose 20 lbs?”).
Trust advice that makes common sense, and then work diligently to learn (proving or disproving) what works for you.
5. Do you always find reasons NOT to continue?
I would guess that more than 50% of those who begin an exercise program will find an excuse not to continue within 12 weeks. The time isn’t right. I’m too busy. I’m not seeing results. It’s too expensive. My knee hurts…..
Whatever the excuse, do you always have one?
Guess what? There will always be reasons not to continue! You have to decide to move forward, decide to continue and decide to succeed. Create options for yourself, but not the option to quit.
Respect Yourself and Your Dreams
Above all, it’s about staying true to yourself; no lies, no excuses, no whining. You’ve decided that this is important to you. No one told you had to do it, right?
Give yourself the love and respect you deserve, get out of your own way!
Love Yourself Lean! xokp