“Did you know that they sometimes have to stitch you up because you tear ‘down there” when the baby is born!?” Laura asked with eyes popping in disbelief and horror. Laura is one of the younger girls in our group. This morning during exercise, she shared a story about her friends’ childbirth experience.
“The baby actually tore her and the doctors had to sew her back up!”
The mothers in the room nodded knowingly.
With care not to further alarm her, each of us shared a memory about birthing our babes. I could actually feel the atmosphere in the room change as we spoke laughingly and fondly of that bittersweet time of pain and joy.
As it slowly dawned on Laura that it was a possibility (the tearing and stitching) she sat stone-still, eyes even wider. You could actually see the “that’s not gonna happen to me” thoughts in her head take on a physical stance. We’ve all been there, right?
Two things occurred to me after this exchange.
1) At “over 40” we are now that wise woman who hands down stories and shares experience. I felt the responsibility to tell it in a way that’s positive, hopeful and would allow Laura to realize that, while the birth experience is universal, our individual experience is unique.
2) So too with weight loss; our stories are similar, but our individual experiences are unique. Most of us will laugh and talk fondly of the journey while respectfully remembering the difficulties and the struggle. (even though it was HELL at times, and it’s probably not over!) LOL.
The value of our story to others is greatest when we support their unique circumstance, and not force ours. It’s valuable to encourage joy in the journey, assure that it’s ok not to not be ok, applaud self-acceptance, and cheer as other’s push through difficult times. It’s valuable to offer a guarantee that it really IS going to be worth it!
The joy that childern bring into our lives far outweighs the challenge of childbirth.
The vitality of a healthy life far outweighs the struggles of weight loss.
The old you might tear, but the new you will heal stronger, fitter and happier.
My boys are grown men now and they are the joys of my life. Balanced lifestyle choices, a healthy weight, strength and flexibility allow me to live a fun life; a life that I can reasonably expect to enjoy for years to come. That’s the plan anyway!
Are you living the life you want to? Will you enjoy a good quality of life as you age? Do you have a plan that’s helping you to achieve these goals?
What I’d like you to know about Get Fit Over 40 programs is that they are written from my personal point of view, experience and communicated to you in my unique way, from the perspective of a woman over 40. (OK over 50 is now closer to the mark). The bottom line is this- you can draw from my experience, follow my plan but all the while, REALIZE THIS: You are designing your own life, writing your own story and etching out a plan that works for you, every unique step of the way! Make it a Best Seller.